MARNIE

[skigirl]

Hope everything is ok with you. Please write in and let us know how things are going. I read your post about your marriage and I'm concerned. I was once in a similar situation - my ex-husband hit me once. It started early in our marriage with him throwing things, punching walls, etc., then when we were splitting up he punched and threw me. I'm not saying your situation is anything like that, but if it is, please get help and/or leave.

[skigirl]

Just to add another caution to what I said before. I know you may have read my posts and what was said by AnonymousArtist and thought, well, it's not that bad - maybe I was being a bit dramatic. I used to have those same thoughts all the time, even when he was acting like a lunatic, and it's so hard to see a situation very clearly when you're in it. Just think of it this way: you're not able to say things are exactly terrific, so there is some kind of problem there. You SHOULD be able to say things are terrific with your husband, maybe not perfect, but being married should be a good part of your life and he should be a support for you. That's his job. Sometimes we accept less than what we know we deserve, and that's part of what is hurting you now. Ok, I'm done preaching now. But just know that you are more than welcome to talk to me about this if you need to.

[marnie01]

Hey Skigirl!
I first want to say thank-you for your concern and kind words. You and annonomysartist have been so kind (along with everyone else... I do not want to leave anyone out ) My husband and I are going to try and get some help. I have an appointment on Monday 6/14 with a therapist by myself. I want to get marriage counceling however; he says that he is too busy with work to go (but he has time to sleep all day?!?!) So, I am going to get help for myself. I have been through a lot recently and not just with my marriage and it is time that I take care of me. We are sitting down this weekend with his family to see if we can work some of this out. I just really get the feeling that he does not want to work this out... only time will tell. I may need you guys BIG time pretty soon!
On another note... it is funny that you say something in your second post about me thinking that I was being a hit dramatic. Last night when we were getting along great I was thinking to myself... "what am I so depressed about... things are fine?" but, the truth is that things may be fine for a while but, they will get bad again. It was almost like I had to talk myself out of being mad at myself for going to my family about our problems and being so upset about things. I pray that things will get better... they just have to, I love him so much but, I can not make him love me Ohh... enough about that I am getting sad!
My picking has been going a lot better (as far as I have not been) even with everything that is going on. I think that I have just convinced myself that if I quit picking he will want to stay with me... but that is only one of 50 thousand problems! Have you ever picked without even realizing that you are?? I went to bed last night and lay there picking at the one on my chest... HELLO what they hell was I doing! This compulsion is just so weird!! Like someone posted the other day, you just have to laugh at it sometimes ;D I will post again later...thanks again!

p.s. are all of your math test done? If not good luck!

Marnie ;D

[anonymousartist]

Just on a personal note (and I know it's not quite as bad for you) what my mom went through was very sporadic (for some reason he blew up in spring time).

Don't ever feel like you are wrong by getting help with problems. If you had financial problems would you feel bad going to a financial advisor? That's what family, friends, and councellors are there for.