I dont know what to do..

[Cath not logged in]

Hi Broken doll,
It sounds like this has to be your call, because the only way you could stay with this guy is to be honest with him and explain what you are going through. You need to judge whether he is the kind of guy to be sympathetic and to understand, if so try to tell him, even if you don't let him know the extent of it to start with. But if you dont' think he will be understanding about it then you are better off without him anyway.

My boyfriend didn't used to have a problem with my picking at all, but recently he keeps asking me to stop and he keeps saying things like "just stop pickinrg your back" I'm not sure if he is trying to help and be supportive or if he is getting frustrated with me. The thing is, him saying things like that stresses me out and makes me more likely to pick my back.
The problem is I think i'm going on to binge eating now as well (
Life sucks sometimes.

Good luck borken doll, even if you don't get back together with your boyfriend, just be the strong person you are. i think all of us pickers are strong, we have this one weakness, but it means that we have all got to be strong within ourselves to deal with the stresses it brings, ie. not being as close to girls as we want to be. so just remember you have survival techniques.
Cath x

[kimj]

Hey broken doll
Are you really sure that if your exboyfriend found out that he wouldn't want to be with you? If that's the case then he's not worth having anyway. I think you should consider that he really cares for you, maybe your skin won't matter so much to him. And if you educate him about the disorder then he would still want to be with you. I've been with my boyfriend for years and haven't told him about my picking. Even though I've never told him I know that if I did we would never leave me just for that reason. Maybe telling him will make you feel lots of relief and get you on the way to quitting...you never know. Anyway, I know how you feel about intimacy...I'm so self conscious about the way I look that it's difficult to be intimate sometimes. If you do really want to be intimate with ,turning off the lights helps a lot!

[phonegirldaisy]

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT PICK THEIR SKIN LIKE ME! I JUST THOUGT I HAVE BEEN CRAZY SINCE I WAS A LITTLE GIRL. I AM SO EXCITED TO HAVE FOUND THIS FORUM! And I sympathize with you about telling a new boyfriend-- it's so hard and scary because you don't know how they will react-- will they be disgusted? ANYONE HERE FROM NYC? I'd like to meet you.

[Stef (Incubabe)]

phonegirldaisy said:

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT PICK THEIR SKIN LIKE ME! I JUST THOUGT I HAVE BEEN CRAZY SINCE I WAS A LITTLE GIRL. I AM SO EXCITED TO HAVE FOUND THIS FORUM! And I sympathize with you about telling a new boyfriend-- it's so hard and scary because you don't know how they will react-- will they be disgusted? ANYONE HERE FROM NYC? I'd like to meet you.

I'm from CT. It's kind of close... lol



Anyway. I recommend that you explain the situation to him. If he doesn't understand, then he's not the guy for you. If he really cares about you, he will take the time to understand and care for you. If not, then let him go. You don't need someone who can't take the time to understand.

If it makes it easier, write him a note explaining everything. Give it to him and explain that it's something that you feel is important for him to know, and let him know that it's something that's difficult for you to tell him.