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Post by Sammy25 on Oct 31, 2005 20:39:36 GMT -5
Has anybody ever missed an important event or risked losing a job because they can't leave the mirror? This has happened to me many times. I was late to my own Father's Funeral because I couldn't leave the mirror. Crazy
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Post by anonymousartist on Oct 31, 2005 21:31:52 GMT -5
I've missed a tv show or two. I do remember a night I was supposed to go out and I picked like crazy and then I decided I didn't want to go out (I was anxious and it was part of the reason I was picking). I got in hot bath to make myself feel better and when my friends called I said I didn't feel good and that my skin had broken out. They gave me shit for it, but it wouldn't have been a good night.
I pick a lot out of anxiety, but it would scare me more to miss something important, so I usually just forget about it an go out even if my skin is a mess (sometimes I don't even bother to cover up the damage very much).
I'm sure I've been late because of anxiety before, and I might have used picking to deal with the anxiety so they coincided.
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Post by Picker 1 on Nov 8, 2005 21:53:31 GMT -5
Sammy,
Yes, I have missed many events due to my picking. Sometimes my skin is just so bad that I can't imagine getting in the shower because my face hurts, or because it would be too hard to put on makeup. I actually had a real bad picking session on Thursday night of last week and I made myself go to work (I had to keep applying makeup to cover the red marks). then I couldn't wait to get home on Friday night, wash my face and relax. I ended up picking more that night and I stayed in my house all weekend!!! There are some times that I feel as if there was an emergency going on around me and I was in the middle of one of my picking sessions in the bathroom, that there is a slim chance that I would leave the bathroom. Isn't it crazy how controlling this disease is? I also suffer from depression.
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Post by playinwitfire on Dec 8, 2005 9:11:41 GMT -5
Hi Sammy, Yes I can totally symphathise. This happens to me EVERY morning before college and before work at the weekends. i never leave on time as my skin is too alluring when i stray to close to the mirror, in fact I wont hesitate to seek out the mirror, and the tweezers even when I am already late..and then i have to spend 1/2 correcting the damage. Its frustrating because as a person I am totally determined to be organised, punctual, planned out etc but this just never happens for me in real life, in fact i just sit there in a state of pure engament with the mirror, fingers piercing into my face and nothing else matters. All that happens is that my head gets overloaded with useless plans, intentions and objectives that I can never fulfill and the knowledge of this gets me down. I have been late for a funeral too, it was someone in my family but you must remember it doesn't mean there is anything bad or uncaring about you its just that the disorder does sometimes override anything and everything and exists seperately to your real feelings. I don't know how it affects you but when i constantly miss appointments or ruin my schedule i do start to seriously doubt my own integrity and consideration for others which is easy to slip into, and even others may do this as they have done in my case. You just have to be soo determined, block it out as much as you can and I just keep saying to myself, your ready now, just leave! prepare everything in advance, make your routine before you leave a nice pleasant panned out routine, eat a healthy breakfast, before you enter the mirror stage anticipate events, be proud of making the bathroom routine speedy and efficient to replace the need for efficient picking. sorry if that seems confusing but its difficult to transfer thoughts into words y'know! Hope this helps.
Love Love xxxx Jess
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Post by AmyL on Dec 9, 2005 1:34:37 GMT -5
Ohhhhhhhh my gosh I 've been late to so many things because I've spent too much time picking at something... my face, my legs, my arms... then I have to try and hide what I did to try and make myself somewhat normal looking before I go out.... More often then being late from getting stuck at the mirror I stay up WAY too late at the mirror. Even when I KNOW I've got to get up early in the morning. My poor husband is in bed waiting for me and I'm trapped in the bathroom. Obsessed! Being new to this site I've already been able to learn ALOT about myself from reading other people's experiences. I'm sure this is nothing new to everyone here, but for me, it has been a HUGE revelation to realize that my picking is distinctly stress related. I have done it during extremely bored moments but usually am able to control it more if that is the case. I'm noticing that if something crazy is going on in my life you can always tell by my skin. I don't just mean breaking because of stress. But pICKING! It wouldn't be so bad if I just broke out during stressful times... everyone has breakouts... the fact that I massacre my skin with a breakout is what is driving me most crazy!!!
It's like, when I have REALLY got something important to get to all of sudden I find myself picking. it's like... of ALL the days to be doing this!! WHY did I waste so much time picking today when I kNEW I had to get somehwere... anyway.. to be continued...
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Post by SarahMac on Mar 7, 2006 11:43:14 GMT -5
No one else I know has this picking skin problem, it's totally taken over my whole life, I haven't been out with friends for two months, they ve stopped calling now, and it doesn't help that i ve broken my phone, I havent been going to uni classes cause I cant face anyone, i live with my mother just now solely because of this problem and she can barely look at me. Im finally going to the doctors about it next week. but im in complete despair, wake up every morning and cry when I look in the mirror, have to have a bath the night before because a shower hurts too much.
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Post by Dee13 on Mar 8, 2006 15:17:48 GMT -5
SarahMac, hope you have a good Dr. that can help. There are a lot of people who have picking problems. Hang in there things will get better. Dee
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Post by Apple on Mar 29, 2006 10:39:55 GMT -5
I find myself picking the day before I go to work or if I have some underlying stressor/event.....I've spent at times close to 3 hours picking. I'm not deterred by my legs & hips hurting.....it's like when you get in front of the mirror, it's just YOU & the mirror. You're oblivious to the world around you & it's a way for you to escape into your own world without worries, ie when I'm at the mirror, I didn't worry about my job which i dislike, neither did anything else concern me. I find I do with most when I'm stressed & it doesn't surprise me that people are usually late to planned events......those events/moments are stressors in your life & you retrieve to your comfort zone-picking.
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Post by Apple on Mar 29, 2006 10:44:47 GMT -5
No one else I know has this picking skin problem, it's totally taken over my whole life, I haven't been out with friends for two months, they ve stopped calling now, and it doesn't help that i ve broken my phone, I havent been going to uni classes cause I cant face anyone, i live with my mother just now solely because of this problem and she can barely look at me. Im finally going to the doctors about it next week. but im in complete despair, wake up every morning and cry when I look in the mirror, have to have a bath the night before because a shower hurts too much. Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear that, but just know they're people like you everywhere. Some of us hide our problems better with makeup or the best acne regimen, but the underlying problems still remains. The best thing you can do is talk about your problem in a forum like this; find out what worked for others & see if it works for you. Definitely happy to hear that you're seeking out help from a doctor. You're not alone. Love ya - Apple
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Post by mstsnahdc on Apr 8, 2006 6:16:36 GMT -5
Grab some raw corn on the cob. "Picking" the corn has a good zit-like feel to it. A little popping satisfaction without scarring your skin.
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Post by Gnosis on Jun 7, 2006 16:02:22 GMT -5
happens to me almost every day. today I never even got out of the house at all because I got stuck in the mirror... I have been missing so many days lately because of this... Im afraid I might not graduate my course
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Post by Melissa89pending on Jun 7, 2006 19:57:54 GMT -5
I've missed school before...and skipped out on going to my friend's beach house for a weekend  |
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Post by Gnosis on Jun 8, 2006 3:21:17 GMT -5
i have actually missed entire nights of sleep just standing in front of the mirror picking away... and like playinwitfire said... I seriously doubt I would be able to leave the mirror even if there was a fire or something.. glad I dont have children... I can just imagine it... baby crying, me not being able to leave the mirror...
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Post by Simby on Jun 8, 2006 15:05:48 GMT -5
I haven't ever been late before but I have opted out of events due to the damage of 2 & 3hr picking episodes. A good example will be this weekend. I picked at my legs for a while the night before and I was invited to a swimming party this weekend. Guess who can't go now! Yep, me. I still need to come up with an excuse. It sucks b/c I love to swim and I haven't been in yrs due to picking....I'm always spotted.
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Post by Melissa89pending on Jun 8, 2006 15:48:10 GMT -5
ugh, I HATE having to come up with excuses for not going places because I've picking. If I say i'm sick people always ask me if I'm feeling better the next time they see me, and I feel bad.
And gnosis, I've also missed a lot of sleep because of picking...it's so hard to pull away from the mirror, but if there were some sort of fire or I had a baby I know I would be able to tear myself away. Unfortunately, those are the only types of things that really can tear me away from the mirror.
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