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Post by jbyars on Jul 18, 2005 11:20:51 GMT -5
I am new here, and I just want to know why can't we just stop picking??? My picking is driving me crazy!! I get up every morning with the good intentions of just not picking, but I always do. Sometimes I justify it by saying "I am stressed right now, I will stop later", and sometimes I just find myself saying "I will just rub it, not pick". But I know beforehand that I will decide just to pick a little bit, then I'll decide that I have blown my resolve for the day, so I may as well pick. HELP ME understand why we just cannot quit.Janice
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Post by bluegem on Jul 18, 2005 22:21:01 GMT -5
Because that would be easy  We pick for a reason, we pick to help us cope with something. We've learnt these behaviours for a reason and to stop we basically have to unlearn them or learn something new to take over. Everytime you make up an excuse, you've said to yourself 'this is ok for me to do, I want to keep doing it'. If you make up an excuse, remind yourself that you don't want this, remind yourself of the reasons you don't want it and the consequences. What's good about this behaviour and why would you want to keep doing it? I find that making myself stop and really really think reduces the urge a little - it takes my mind away from the urge. Don't accept excuses from yourself - I always did it too and it's hard to not accept those excuses but it's either a yes or no. |
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Post by De on Jul 19, 2005 7:31:06 GMT -5
Hi Jbyars, try to make your day super busy away from home. Read all the suggestions and put them into action, removing mirrors is a great one. Let me know if you need suggestions
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Post by dprincess on Jul 19, 2005 16:00:22 GMT -5
It is sad that some of us can't even be comfortable in our own homes. It seems like we are constantly running from ourselves because we can't trust ourselves. It make me wonder if we will be ever be able to stop running(mentally) and start accepting ourselves as we are when we look in our mirrors.
drincess
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Post by depickpick on Jul 20, 2005 6:37:42 GMT -5
We can reprogram our habits using the suggestions that work for us. Once you get a handle on them you can slowly return to more normal behavior. But we all slip and have to go through the process again. It can be done, I have done it, not totally cured but have a strong handle on it just now. De
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Post by jbyars on Jul 20, 2005 9:26:54 GMT -5
Well, I don't usually have to worry about mirrors, I pick on my scalp. Unfortunately, this morning I wondered why my hair was sticking up in a certain spot, and when I looked in the mirror, it seems that I have picked a bald spot on my scalp, about the size of a nickel. This sounds gross, but....when I pick I absolutely must get the scab or skin I have picked. Sometimes several strands of hair comes out too, and at the time I don't care. I just have to get the scab. I didn't realize that my daugher has seen me actually looking at what I have picked until she told me how gross it was. Oh well, I didn't pick yesterday until late last night. So, maybe one day at a time is all I can handle. Janice
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Post by depickpick on Jul 20, 2005 13:29:58 GMT -5
Been there done that.
Here are some of my tips:
Nuregena T-Gel shampoo helps me.
Use fresh Aloe Vera gel on it at night if you are not going out, it’s like weird hair gel
Ceregen massage beds
Different types Eczema treatments seem to help but I don’t think I have it.
Any type Exercise to use up my excess energy, I like swimming, walking, yoga and rowing.
Meditation is helpful, journaling and dream interpretation
Working or playing on the computer
Crafts and hobbies particularly ones that use your hands
Sometimes if you just press down with your nail on the scabs to relief the pressure helps but don’t let yourself pick.
If you start picking go and wash your hair or start doing something with your hands.
I don’t pick when I am on the phone.
If you like pets pet an animal
Garden in the yard or in pots
Play a musical instrument or learn
Reading can give you something to do
My worse time is when I am tired stressed and watching TV.
Eat popcorn very slowly one kernel at a time feeling each dimension of it with your tongue and eat each lump off one at a time. Try not to each trans fatty acid popcorn. You can pop popcorn in olive oil. But unfortunately I like seasoning salt on it.
Peel a grape in your mouth.
Play old fashioned solitaire or other games.
We have to change our habits by finding something else to do during our danger times.
Write a letter about what has stressed you out, and then rip it up. If you want to send it, keep it for several days and review it when you are happy before you send it.
Hang in there De
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We pick for a reason, we pick to help us cope with something. We've learnt these behaviours for a reason and to stop we basically have to unlearn them or learn something new to take over. Everytime you make up an excuse, you've said to yourself 'this is ok for me to do, I want to keep doing it'. If you make up an excuse, remind yourself that you don't want this, remind yourself of the reasons you don't want it and the consequences. What's good about this behaviour and why would you want to keep doing it? I find that making myself stop and really really think reduces the urge a little - it takes my mind away from the urge. Don't accept excuses from yourself - I always did it too and it's hard to not accept those excuses but it's either a yes or no.