fcarea
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Post by fcarea on Aug 25, 2004 23:40:20 GMT -5
I know this is totally off-topic, but what does "coolhandluke" stand for? My stupid screen name "fcarea" stands for the first letter of everyone's name in my family, in order of age (I mentioned this a while ago on another thread.).
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rachaelskate
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Post by rachaelskate on Aug 25, 2004 23:41:15 GMT -5
i think that is awful what that guy said! and it takes a real loser of a guy to point out flaws in other people, that just means he is insecure about himself, and likes to put people down I thought only people like us cared about skin so much anyway!
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fcarea
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Post by fcarea on Aug 25, 2004 23:44:21 GMT -5
Maybe he is one of us. That's what I figure. I notice other peoples blemishes from time to time, but I never would have the nerve to comment on them!
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Post by skigirl on Aug 25, 2004 23:44:25 GMT -5
AA: I second your comment. Who knew that all the cool chicks share the same affliction?
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Post by skigirl on Aug 25, 2004 23:46:42 GMT -5
I'm such a dork (especially after that cool chicks comment). I was addressing what anonymousartist said on page one, which clearly makes no sense here on page two. The good thing is that I pretty much took care of my skin earlier, so I can put my tired brain to bed now. G'night all.
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Post by anonymousartist on Aug 26, 2004 0:15:09 GMT -5
The sad thing is it confused me too! I really need to get my arse to bed.
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Post by coolhandluke on Aug 26, 2004 12:08:36 GMT -5
"Cool Hand Luke" is a movie, one of my all-time favorites, starring Paul Newman. It's about a prisoner who keeps trying to run away to avoid the soul-killing experience in prison, but the more he runs away, the more he's tortured. But he never, ever, ever quits...despite all the odds against him, he manages to "win" in the end. He's given the nickname "Cool Hand Luke" because during a poker game, he wins the game with a "hand full of nothin'," to which he replies modestly, "Yeah, well, sometimes nothin' can be a real cool hand."
I admired him in that movie (I very nearly cried, actually, when I saw it the second time) because of his indominatable spirit, his courage, and his perseverence.
Lately, though, my new hero is Dr. Harvey Cushing (he's dead, though)--he was the most famous neurologist of the 20th century, and he, like me, had ADD; maybe dyslexia as well, I'm not for sure. He was the first surgeon who figured out how to stimulate the sensory cortex, and he discovered a genetic disease that was later named after him, "Cushing's disease." Not only that, but he wrote a biography of William Osler, and that biography won the Pulitzer Prize. Cushing is my idol, since I want to work in neuropsychology, maybe neurophysiology as well. Most importantly, he managed to contribute to humanity in innumerable ways...in spite of AND because of his learning disabilities.
So that's the story behind my screen name. My real name is Margaret, but you guys can call me whatever you want. Later, Margaret (cool hand luke)
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Post by neuromancer on Aug 26, 2004 15:25:53 GMT -5
that's SOOOOOOO rude. skin and weight comments are absolutely off- limits to men, no matter how bad the situation. that's amazing that it didn't have to do with picking though--at least it was "blemishes from god." i dunno, even though they're usually harder to cover, i don't mind them as much as the ones i create myself, painstakingly in front of the mirror.... oh my god i'm sooo awful lately, i was doing So well for almost one year! anyways, that's for another post. hey, the guy was a dick to say that. but i DO want to mention... since we are trying to help each other out here... that it is the cardinal sin of all sins to date the friend of an ex. for some reason it just destroys guys. you should say farewell to both.
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Post by FLAWLESS DESIRE on Aug 26, 2004 20:06:27 GMT -5
Margaret, I think we've all been there. But not only us, EVERYONE, if it wasn't a skin comment, it would have been something else. If someone is looking for something to say to be hurtful, they will FIND SOMETHING. I think the fact that he liked you, means your skin is not an issue in how attractive you are to people at this point. Thinking back, I remember the same thing happening to me with an ex boyfriend. He was totally whipped on me, and I dumped him because he really was not my type. A few months later, he sent me a nasty email and said that he "sarcastically" felt sorry for me that I had to put I guess thinking back, I felt sorry for him that he had to stoop so low to say that. Anyways, people have also said other mean things, I think my dad said something once, but the worse thing anyone ever did, is say something to me at work. Here's what happened: I was watching a lady who came in with an empty bag, and then went to the front to get store credit for stuf she had just stole and put in it. My cashier told me to watch her. She got her credit cuz we had no proof, but I was still told to keep an eye on her. Later on, the lady knew I was watching her while at the cash registers, (she was walking past us, walking out) and she yells out, what are you staring at? ..(to me) Then proceeded to say....You need to quit looking at me and go take a look in the mirror, and maybe you should see a dermatologist about the craters in your face. This comment was devastating. It was in front of customers, associates, etc. I wanted to crawl into a hole and hide for days, but I just kept on cashiering and checking people thru. The customers tried to offer me some consolation, and said I can't believe you can put up with that and not say anything back. I just said, yeah, it's hard, but that's my job to be nice. I did not think that my skin was obvious to everyone else, and I actually thought it was looking okay that day. So, yes, it was pretty tough to take. I made it thru though, and it has been quite awhile since anybody has said anything mean (knock on wood) even if they are thinking it. Kids also can be cold truth tellers, but it's only because they usually don't know better and are inquisitive, I suppose we can't hold that against them. Anyways, don't worry, you are not alone. People who want to say hurtful things, are just looking for things to point out. Let them point them out, and then you can either quietly realize (or say) , the following... My favorite comment or retort:::: """I realize I may have skin issues right now, but fortunately my skin issues will go away, and/ or can be corrected. However, you will always be an asshole, and that is something you can't change as easily. Having bad skin never stopped people from making friends, but being an asshole has. How many people actually like you,, dude? I'm sure not many, if you say cruel things like that to them, and now there's one less person who LIKES YOU.. Funny thing, is I thought you were okay before, but thanks for helping me see the real you, I"m glad I didn't waste my time on a friend like you. Way to make friends and influence people, ya loser!! .. Have a good one!!
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Post by flawless desire on Aug 26, 2004 20:10:18 GMT -5
A line got left out of my post...
The guy I use to date (who emailed me) said he "sarcastically" felt sorry for me that I had to put so much makeup on to cover up my skin issues.
Anyways, I knew that didn't make sense without that.
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Post by coolhandluke on Aug 26, 2004 23:35:58 GMT -5
What a complete and total prick of a guy. Nah, he's not even a guy, he's a total limp-appendage. And that customer! Obviously just trying to make herself feel more worthy of dignity...I mean, she WAS nearly busted for shoplifting, and I'm sure she felt angry about being watched, as though she were a teenager. This is purely from a devil's advocate point of view, of course---I agree with your store completely in their approach to shoplifting. But ouch, I bet that hurt like alcohol on a picking wound (ha ha ha...okay, that was dumb). I'm sure you wanted to disappear! And trust me, I know how it feels to look freshly picked around kids---I actually had one 7-year-old say to me, "It looks like you have chicken pox on your face!" I knew she was only 7 and just trying to be funny, but it still hurt, because my looks are so important to me (as they are to most people, especially pickers!). Less hurtful, but still an issue, is the fact that kids are naturally porcelain-skinned, so they seem to expect adults to look like them, and they notice our skin's difference from theirs even more! By the way, I'm going to do a bit of research on skin, the body's immunity, and zinc...I think I may be on to something. I'll let you guys know when I figure it out, okay? Later, cool hand luke
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Post by anonymousartist on Aug 27, 2004 10:57:20 GMT -5
I got a bit of acne/oily skin at a very young age, about 10. This stupid boy called me zitface all the time, but he totally had zits on his face so I just never really felt he was justified. But I got made fun of a lot in elementary school and I just laughed back at the little snotbags, or said, "thank you," and it just stopped them cold...they had no idea what to say after that.
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